Communication is another key, say sex therapists. It helps to openly share sexual fantasies and intimate sexual feelings and desires with one's mate. It sounds easy, but most of us don't do it.

It's also important to keep up appearances. "One of the real keys to a satisfYing, long-lasting sex life is taking pride in your appearance, keeping yourself up, A sex therapist and associate clinical professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the Health Science Center of the State University of New York in Brooklyn. "Take your physical self seriously. Don't let yourself get sloppy." You notice when your mate start') getting a little seedy, putting on weight, padding around in a bathrobe all Saturday morning. Well, it works both ways.